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Who’s Responsible: Valid Points in Asha’s Disappearance


Technology is such a funny thing; it’s quite the ironic entity and can help immensely in the search of a child, getting the word out and determining who these missing kids may be talking to.

But a computer in the hands of a child without proper supervision transforms this innocuous box that can whiz, ping and literally sing into the ‘street corner of the world.’

Having a computer in a child’s room can lure a child out of the parents’ good graces and into the arms of a pedophile. Factor in a missing child and your world just grew by continents and becomes a cold, cold place–a black hole where parasites feed on the unsuspecting.

What does all that have to do with finding Asha?

Well, the Degrees didn’t have a computer in their home and in 2000, like most every kid, their’s didn’t have a cell phone, either. That keeps Asha’s world limited–extremely limited. So, determining who is responsible for goading Asha out on a cold, rainy, dark, dark predawn morning on February 14th becomes so much easier.

The lack of technology in the Degree home was a ‘Great Wall’ of sorts, as no one who’s not known and not invited is not allowed inside of Asha’s world.

In order for someone to have enough access into Asha’s world to craft a story, weave a web and maintain trust, said person needs time. Needs access. And because Asha’s world was so predictable, so regimented and so small in a good way, this monster can’t look, act and be perceived by family or community as distrustful, as an outsider.

Ultimately, this person must be well known to Asha–and he has to be someone with steady access to her.

“Very very” shy, Asha had to trust this person.

Trust him enough that any story he weaves sounds believable.

And the story must be a secret, so it must be the ‘good kind’ of secret, sounding wholesome and true. Asha would have to believe that if and when her parents found out why she was gone outside her home, they’d be pleased, happy. They would praise her efforts.

Remember, Asha is an obedient child. Everything in her world is structured. There must be no deviation from her normal course of every day business and trust.

Too, Asha had to feel safe leaving her home. On a cold night. Missing school. In the dark. In the rain. Outside where the dogs bark.

‘Away’ in any sense of the word would not suit Asha and her world.

‘Alone’ with her fears would not suit Asha.

It’s here where I believe (my opinion) that the timing of Asha’s disappearance–her parent’s anniversary–was not random; rather February 14th was part of the good secret.

Someone had to know about this special day. Have access to Asha to remind her of the good secret. And there’s no private cell phone. There’s no computer chat line. No, said reminders of the ‘good-secret plan’ had to be in person.

Too, what clothing was missing and the contents of the bookbag makes sense. And I’ll talk about that on the next page.


A poser for you: Since Asha’s family didn’t have a home computer in 2000 nor cell phones for their kids, do you think the idea an outsider could have enough access to Asha to convince her to act in the manner she did? Do you still believe Asha planned to leave her home on her own accord? What questions does this information here conjure up?  



  1. k.c. says:

    Why are you so sure it was a “he” who took Asha and not a “she”?


    • findingasha says:

      Hi K.C., Thanks for visiting my blog and of course, your question. 😉

      Asha’s age and the fact that she’s a young girl are the first indicators,
      but of course, that’s a weak argument to assert that the offender is male.

      I do have some things that aren’t ‘ready’ for posting, that better support
      my theory the offender is a man. One could say the offender is a strong,
      young woman and that’s always open for debate until Asha’s case is solved.

      I’m not the know all, be all for sure, but I’d be willing to bet the offender
      is a male. Please, everyone, my speculation is just that–a point of view
      based upon what I’ve learned thus far.

      I could be wrong and I’d be thrilled to be wrong, so long as the case gets resolution!

      I did get some info in a little over a week ago, so I’m always adding (and taking away)
      from/to my theories, but I haven’t strayed too far, and for now, I’m staying with male/males.

      I know my answer is cryptic and might be frustrating for most, but I would hate to be
      wrong and posting things leading to an innocent person!

      Please keep thinking and asking questions, even if you don’t agree with me.

      Thanks again,


  2. Carlos Godìnez says:

    Good morning. I think that for a very shy girl is easiest to trust in a female than in a man. And if is a relative female better


    • Thanks for your insight Carlos. I sometimes feel I have tunnel vision (I mean, I haven’t looked in other areas). You’re right about trust and shyness—and the idea a female could be responsible. Please keep your ideas coming; we must find Asha together. 🙂


  3. Niki says:

    When my mom was in high school, another student disappeared. A 14 year old girl. It was a week before her body was found, frozen to death tied to a chair in an abandoned shed. No one was ever caught, but a lot of people believed that is was a teenage game gone wrong. Some type of innitiation. That whoever tied her to the chair left just to scare her a bit, and for whatever reason didn’t make it back until she was dead or in medical distress. And no one said anything out of fear. Is there any chance this may have happened in Asha’s case ? Some students in school wanted to sneak out, for whatever reason, and dared Asha to join them, and Asha didn’t want them to think she was chicken or they would never stop teasing her in school. Then, something happened, accidentally, and the other children were to scared to say anything. Asha doesn’t seem the type to go off with an adult. But sneaking out with a school friend ? It is almost a right of passage for children to do that. I admit, it may be hard for a child to hide a body, but not impossible. Or maybe they told an adult who helped cover things up because they were trying to protect their child.


    • Oh my, that poor teen. While I can’t see any parallels with Asha’s case, your last statement can certainly resonate with hers, even many, cases. There could be a parent covering up for their responsible adult son or daughter. It’s why we need the power of many minds. Thanks for your input!


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