Finding Asha Degree, Shelby's Sweetheart

February 14, 2018 Update

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Feb. 14th, 2018 An Update

I want to thank all of you for caring about Asha and her family, and yes, I am still working the blog and collecting material. I’m not sure about the who/why, but my Facebook page continues to get locked for unidentified access;  I’ll be looking into that, as I’m absolutely certain I haven’t accessed the page via my iPhone or different IP address.

Many of you want updates but please know that a team of Charlotte Division FBI agents have been assigned to her case and I have contacted them. I have to be responsible with what information I gather and forward it to expert eyes.

I’d like your help, and ask everyone to post about Asha on Twitter, (plus)Google+, Facebook, Reddit, Lipstick Alley, Snapchat, Tumblr, Pinterest, Nextdoor, YouTube, whatever social media site you frequent.

There is no such thing as “too much information” in a case such as Asha’s. Please remember to be sensitive and don’t post anything that may upset the Degree family.

I also want to ask all of you to copy and paste to your social media sites this request:

From 2/14~2/18 @ 9:11~9:16 a.m. and/or p.m., please say a prayer or meditate that the person responsible for Asha Degree’s disappearance finds it in their heart to come forward.

Much Love & Light,

~Wendy

Asha: the Sleepwalking Theory

Many times, and on forums about the web, I’m asked about the possibility that Asha may have been sleepwalking,  approached by an ill-intended motorist, and whisked into the night.

I’d like to comment why the theory just plain ol’ doesn’t work. My belief is based upon the source data I’ve included on the Sources page. I don’t take anything I’ve included in my blog lightly; I/we/you are here because of a terrible tragedy, so theorizing based upon what I ‘think’ is a waste of time for us all and disrespectful to the Degree family.

First, sleeping is a cycle we all can recognize: sometimes we are ‘dead asleep’ and sometimes the softest noise or stimulus can bring us fully alert.

There are several indications that drift far-left from Asha walking in her sleep, well, so many that I’m listing them:

  1. No noted history of sleepwalking
  2. Level of difficulty: packed her backpack/bookbag with matching clothes, shoes, family photos. Did so without turning any lights on
  3. Collected clothing from different areas
  4. Moved about in (small) common areas without waking her brother, nor either parent. Sleepwalkers are not quiet unless said task is a habit, like tiptoeing around a baby’s crib so as not to wake her
  5. Left her home unlocked and/or locked at point of exit
  6. Official temperatures were near freezing (to 34f); sudden change of temps from indoor to outdoor weather would bring an under-dressed person awake within minutes, certainly within an hour’s time
  7. Torrential downpour of near-freezing rain hitting/dripping in face and eyes; a rude awakening for anyone

Somewhere in all that time, a person would have naturally cycled from that deeper sleep into a lighter level of sleep, so if one stimulus didn’t wake a person, another would. But for those who might argue that an imbalance in the brain may have brought a person up and outside, we’ll say the cold rainwater to the face didn’t awaken a child, and we’ll go on.

Sometimes when we read a complex action, we see words and don’t necessarily ‘feel’ them. Using the following info, place yourself in the activities and surroundings below to arrive at a better opinion of why (or why not) the sleepwalking theory is a viable one.

As I mentioned, Asha would have had to move about without turning on bedroom and living room lights. Turn off your lights and use your memory to gather and pack the aforementioned items.

Of course, there are variables, like your clothes may be in one area and Asha’s in her room and maybe the laundry area (or vice-versa), or your photos might not be framed and Asha’s framed, etc. but for illustration, just move about, gathering and packing without turning on lights and without pre-planning what will be packed. The lack of pre-planning is critical to this exercise.

Notice how much noise you might make with the opening and closing, back and forth, up and down stairs. Do not try to be sneaky. The sleepwalking theory dictates that Asha did not plan to run out/away. Remember, Asha shared a bedroom (but not a bed) with her brother.

Another point: Asha’s backpack, like most kids her age, was really her bookbag and used mostly for school. Her packing strategy must have been very keen; she had a lot inside: a book binder, another pair of sneakers, the family photos, and several matching outfits (including a vest, shirts, heavier jeans and overalls) as well as other school and personal things, packaged tightly–not just thrown in the bag. Many sleepwalkers who have never packed a bag at all will toss or set things in a bag any ol’ way while asleep, as they’ve no experience.

Some extreme sleepwalkers can drive a good ways, but a person who has never driven could not have safely made a similar trip. When we sleepwalk, we are capable of doing what is habit or very familiar to us.

Everyone’s sleepwalking episode will be different based upon experience, but at some point, the sleepwalker will awaken or lie down and fall into restful sleep.

Now, say Asha did make it out of her house successfully. Remember, she wore no outerwear: no coat, hat, mittens, etc.  Imagine for a minute you are dressed in a nightgown and sneakers.

The official weather report for that day, and the night before, stated that over an inch of rain fell within a 24-hour period and temps were hovering just over freezing. Also, one witness stated the ‘torrential downpour’ was in full swing when he spotted Asha (or someone fitting her description).

I had to back pedal a bit, but I wanted to give you a visual of how hard it was raining.

Now, imagine being asleep and you are in a cold shower/rain shower. You are soaking wet. You have no flashlight and there are no highway lights. You are walking 1.3 miles, a familiar route but never on foot . . . and in the pitch dark.

You really need to visualize yourself outside as you read this:

  1. Very little clothing
  2. Very dark
  3. Very cold
  4. Sudden blast of cold air and pouring rain
  5. Asleep (please visualize yourself in these situations before going on)
  6. No lighting (I’m reiterating the ‘no lights’ because it is the most important factor)
  7. Navigating unstable terrain you can’t see: drain pipes, ruts and gutters splashing full of rainwater (please see the Google images for a glimpse of some stretches of the  highway’s terrain)
  8. Unfamiliar spots like gravel, mailboxes, street signs, intersections (images, again)
  9. No lighting–at all (could you even walk this 1.3 mile stretch fully awake?)

 

Obviously, being awake as you are now, you can’t fully visualize those actions done while sleeping. If anything, your sleeping actions won’t be neatly, thoughtfully-planned and safely performed. Walking over a mile without the aid of any light source, in less than one hour, when you can’t see one foot in front of the other seems near impossible.

But let’s move along:

Asha carried a backpack that wasn’t waterproof, so let’s expand your sleepwalking visual to include the bag and walking beyond Asha’s home street. Remember to visualize yourself with  each step of the way (each new number below). After five minutes of walking briskly (due to a one-hour timeline), you should experience:

  1. Soaking-wet hair and a soaked head (where body heat is rapidly lost and no hat)
  2. Near-freezing water dripping from hair into eyelashes and eyes
  3. All exposed limbs are wet; you are wiping and wiping water from your eyes and face in order to ‘see’
  4. Your clothes are soaked and clinging to you, and you are having to walk and accommodate  your stride and maintain a brisk pace and good distance

 

What I’m trying to impress here is, just how much stimuli is present during this sleepwalking outing. Here are other considerations you’ll need to see yourself do while walking over a mile along the highway:

  1. You will have fallen a few times into puddles and water from sewer pipes sending a flood through them, roadside (see the gutters, ruts and size of pipelines in Google images at the end of the blog). Remember to envision you are not able to see anywhere you step.
  2. Your have fallen with a backpack full of wet clothes. Wet laundry is heavy, and this load is half your body weight.
  3. You have no light; you cannot see, but you pick up the heavy backpack and continue anyway.
  4. You are asleep but you go through your backpack or purse, retrieve candy, unwrap it and discard the wrappers along the highway (strictly by touch), while walking without the aid of light.
  5. You’ve run into street signs, mailboxes and any other posts or signage

It’s most effective to envision a dark road you are familiar with–one with no street lights.

I’m certain at least one mishap would have awakened almost of us, but let’s look at the science of sleep. I’ll keep to the very basics:

While sleeping, we go through several levels of sleep: N1, N2 and N3. When we have gone through those three levels, it’s called a ‘sleep cycle.’

A complete cycle can take up to 1 and 1/2 hours, maybe a bit more. We go from lighter sleep to heavy sleep and then back again. Sleeping starts at a very light state where just about anything can wake you. This is called ‘N1’ sleep and lasts a few minutes.

The next level of sleep is N2 and we are just getting off to a real sleep. N2 lasts 10 -25 minutes.

The N3 stage lasts 20 to 40 minutes and a person is deep in sleep. Nearly all sleepwalking episodes occur during this deep sleep stage.

Since the packing and the walk down the highway took more than 40 minutes, you would have to come back around to a lighter state of sleep, N2 then back to N1. Just think stages: 1,2,3, then 3,2,1. The longer you sleep the shorter the sleep stages are.

After just 20 to 40 minutes from the time you began sleepwalking, you would have entered from your deep sleep state to a lighter state and I’d say you would have awakened from a fall, the rain, or something.

I don’t have any way of knowing how quickly you moved about while packing clothes, but I’d venture to say you didn’t make it 1.3 miles down a pitch-black highway during a torrential rain storm while sleepwalking.

I’m no sleep expert, but here’s an easy-to-follow article and video from those who are:

Sleep Medicine at Harvard.

http://healthysleep.med.harvard.edu/healthy/science/what/sleep-patterns-rem-nrem

ZZZ Questions I Get Asked.. (the Zs are for page placement only)

It occurred to me if we’re going to find Asha via the power of many minds, that I need to post the questions I’m asked. I answer as honestly as I can but I can’t say who I suspect is responsible. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, ask questions and provide feedback!

I’m working on obtaining weather conditions for the early, dark and rainy-cold morning of Asha’s disappearance. I’ll post that as soon as available.

If ANYONE can provide the 3/14/2000 episode of Montel Williams’ talk show, I’d sure appreciate  it!

Questions:

I have read your entire website and I think that your known-abductor theory makes sense. What I don’t understand is: Why would Asha’s abductor leave the bookbag to be discovered?

**Great question, these inquiries are why we need the power of many minds to find Asha. I can only speculate. It’s easy to think of whoever took Asha as a monster but in reality, this guy (yes, I said ‘guy’ based on what I believe) is the one at the neighborhood store. As much as I don’t want to call him human, he is. He has idiosyncrasies’ like everyone else. His behavior as a ‘planter’ is the reason that bookbag was buried, and it wouldn’t surprise me if he knew that area was going to be developed, so he planted it. There is no reason to bury that bookbag unless to revisit it. Because this person (I believe) is local, it’s doubtful he would risk the time and the possibility of being seen unearthing the bookbag. He most likely planted it like he did the hair bow and other items–to throw off law enforcement. As humans, we do, and repeat what’s comfortable and what makes sense to us. We hide things in the same places: above or below; in front or behind; inside or outside.

Does part of him want to be caught? Does he just want attention? I can’t think of what he could possibly have to gain by leaving clues.

**No, I don’t think he wants to be caught;  he’s a local and knowledgeable about back roads– and dirt roads, specifically. I believe he’s very good at putting things behind him and presenting himself as the good guy. He has the tendency to ‘zone out;’ he’s the one in the pics not smiling when everyone is celebrating.  His way of not getting caught is in staying in plain sight; he’s a ‘helper,’ and he most likely lives within 5 miles of his former, year-2000, residence. The idea behind planting clues was, he wanted everyone to  believe Asha stopped in the shed to take a break. How else could he convince everyone that Asha was out there walking along in a torrential downpour than to plant ‘evidence’ supporting just that?

 It’s hard for me to imagine that an abductor would take the chance of having Asha walk near a busy highway just to have her “seen” by passers-by.  That is such a huge risk. 
**Great question. Actually, that area of the highway is flat terrain which is a big plus for an abductor. Yes, this person that I suspect is known to the family and this was well thought out and most likely, obsessed over for some time. So, it’s critical that his plot include a runaway scenario and he have time to be where he should be when she is discovered missing. For this reason, I believe the offender lived within 10 miles of the spot Asha was last seen and took off-road routes from the highway and his home. Since he knew he had to be where he normally is at 6:30 a.m. (the time Asha as discovered missing), he can’t have lived far from that spot of highway.
 What if a cop had passed by?  
**Because the area where Asha was walking along was so flat, the perp could see for a good distance and actually choose when she was to be seen and how many cars passed. He could even select what vehicle he would expose her to.
 What if a mom in a car forced hubby to stop immediately after seeing a young child beside highway?
**This highway is so rural with trees at either side and then the heavy downpour of rain, there is NO WAY Asha could have  made that distance in the time frames given; one can’t see their steps in front of them. I’m working with a prominent weather service for the exact conditions/visibility on that day.
 **How does the family know exactly what was packed in that book bag?
Because of the size of Asha’s home and their socio-economic status (like most of us, not affluent/rich), it’s most likely that Asha didn’t have a ton of clothes nor a place to put them; although, she was alway appropriately dressed (and for the weather, too, making the notion she ran off with NO coat less plausible;  children do what they live). The clothing that went missing was Asha’s favorite/most likely  missed outfits– and her ball uniform. I elaborate more about her clothing in my posts. I pose a very interesting theory on the clothing, as well.
**  Were all those items recovered when the book bag was found?
I don’t know that, sadly.
**  I have a 9 year old.  I would have no clue what was missing if she packed a bag.  Not exactly anyway.
The inference by law enforcement is that Asha packed the bag over the course of several days; they know something I don’t. Again, her home is very small, so things that go missing are usually missed. I live in a large house, so I’d have trouble with that, too.
**Why would a perpetrator have her pack a bag anyway if the plan was to abduct and (kill) her?  3 outfits?  Why wouldn’t he ask her to bring something outside for the “surprise” party, and then just grab her and whisk her away to never be seen again.  Why all the “set-up”?  
Because he IS known/close to the family, he had to go with a setup. Law enforcement looks at family first, then widens the net to include friends, then acquaintances. If it was believed (in his mind, anyway) Asha did run away, he’d be off the hook.
**Why have her walk beside the highway? 
He needed her to be seen so it would be believed that she was ALONE and had left on her own.
**Why any of that if she was never gonna be seen again. 
Because he IS known to the family, the set up/runaway situation had to happen as a way to convince law enforcement that she ran on her own.
** Why walk her around all over the place in the rain, to the shed, etc.. just to kill her??
This guy is what I call a “planter;” he plants evidence to suit his set up. That shed was off a VERY dark, VERY LONG, driveway (dirt and gravel). If Asha had been in that shed, her muddy shoe prints would have been found or at least her scent picked up by the dogs. The mud would have preserved her scent; she was NEVER in that shed. Plus, it was way too dark out there. She couldn’t have made her way to it in the dark rain (with NO coat; more telling that this wasn’t planned by her).
**Has anyone who was close to the family at that time, just kind of faded away?  Disappeared?  No longer close to the family??
No one has moved that I’m aware of. The person I believe did this is still local.
**Everything screams to me that the father was involved.
He  passed a polygraph and still lives with his wife in a virtual ‘Asha shrine.’ Her pics are everywhere in that house.
**  He just happened to check on her LAST at 2am in the morning? Coincidentally on the night she disappears.  My hubby is never up at that time in the morning randomly checking on our kids.  I may be.  But I’m a mom.
Actually, their bedroom is cater-cornered to theirs. All he had to do was look up on his way to bed. The bathroom is right there, too. We are talking about a tee-tiny house.
**The brother heard a squeaking of the bed?  And he remembered what time that was?  
No, he didn’t know what time it was. The father said he saw them in bed when he finally went to his room at 2:30. He worked the night shift, so his sleep habits were different.

My Quote:

“Among the items reported as missing from Asha’s home were her black and beige bookbag. It’s believed that Asha packed the items …”

***What stands out to me is the house key. If she were indeed running away (which I’ve always doubted), why would she need her house key?

Asha’s and O’Bryant’s house keys were most likely secreted in the bottom of both siblings book bags. It probably just stayed where it was in the book bag, but there in case of an unexpected need. (My own sons had the same key situation; it was a good idea, I conceded to this practice when my Dr. appointment ran overtime and I panicked coming home and found both boys sitting on our stoop–in the rain. Talk about guilt!

***Also, the amount of clothing she took as well is sticking out. She brought only a few outfits and these outfits were specific.

Yes, this person (this ADULT person)  had intimate knowledge of Asha’s wardrobe.

*** I’ve had my own thoughts on this case and the whole contents on the bag.

The outfits were critical: one being a redshirt/vest (Valentine’s Day and parents  anniversary date). Too, her favorite lime Tweety Bird purse and matching, themed overalls. I believe she was directed by an adult as you mentioned who knew her dress habits–he had to know her outfits . 

Love the website and your theories!!

THANKS but we ALL need our minds to figure this out and bring Asha home. The  more  interest, the greater we can come come up with a solution. 

**My gut tells me there is a cover up.
What happened I think, is, the police didn’t thoroughly investigate everyone. There has been almost as many investigators working this case as years, and things get diluted over time by too  many eyes. Every year, it seems a different investigator takes the case and probably just ‘waits’ for new material to come in when the best stuff is in the file based on who I believe the abductor is. I’m not condemning the department; it’s just the way things are.
The person who did this is nearby; it’s a matter of time . . .
Thanks for your thoughts,
Wendy